judging parenting

Ive been thinking, do you think God punishes those who judge others? Such as, if someone who doesn't have kids, is pregnant or even has a young kid is judging another mom for the things she does do you think God will teach her to stop judging? It makes me wonder. 

I remember when I was younger, I had a lot of friends who were teenage parents. (Some of them) All they wanted to do is go out and party, or ditch their kids. Yes they were young, buttt you chose to sex have sooo take care of the kid you have. I was always the first to say something about how a mother was too bust partying she missed so much of her kids live. I still to this day believe that. If your a parent your kids shouldn't be with your parents, sister or friends EVERY WEEKEND so you can party. I remember this girl said, that she hopes I have a really hard time with my baby..so I will realize how its not easy ((first off who thinks parenting is easy?? not me haha)). I didn't care about her statement because no matter how hard it was, I knew I wouldn't be partying on the weekends. But for some reason the statement stuck with me all these years. I did go on to miscarry and she felt horrible for saying it, but she didn't MEAN she hopes I have a miscarriage she just hoped I had a hard time being a mom, which I totally knew. I don't hate her for the statement she made, she was speaking how she felt, just as I was.

It makes me wonder though, so many people I know make comments about how other people do things. About how kids aren't potty trained yet, co-sleeping, breastfeeding, toys. And it just makes me wonder, is God going to show people...look your dumb...and then suddenly that persons kid won't potty train till they are much older?  I know everyone has their opinions on things, and thats fine. I have LOTS of opinions. But on things like that I always say... I really don't want to co-sleep, because it scares me. But if someone else does it whatever. ((which I totally understand why people are against co-sleeping, but I also totally understand why some people do it)). For me, co sleeping is scary, and I want my alone time with my husband. However, thats not to say that I won't fall asleep while the baby is breastfeeding and wake up hours later with the baby next to me. I mean things happen. I learn from people though, being as its been years...I always say okay she does this, and she does this...and I watch and learn things I think are awesome and things I dont. Its the same with pacifiers, you can tell me till your blue in the face that you won't use one...but then your kid comes out colic, you may just turn to a paci. I know I would! Now if someone is actually abusing their kids, or partying 24/7 trust me I'll be the FIRST to be like are you kidding me?! But I really think as you watch parents parent you can learn a lot. I know I have....Ive talked to countless moms who say I can't get anything done when they baby was an infant, I can't even shower..then as the kids get older you talk to them again and they say looking back I was CRAZY. I should have been doing all of things durning this time because this is what I could have done. which they then learn for the next kid. Its great though because since it took me so many years to finally have a baby, Im able to learn from those people. So I have learned when the baby is an infant and I want to clean or shower or whatever...I will put the baby in the bouncy seat, and guess what its REALLY okay if the baby crys. It won't kill them. I'm not going to NOT shower for fear the baby will cry. As they get a little older crawling and walking around...I have learned from my friends..put the baby in the pack and play with some toys....again if they cry OWELL! Its awesome learning from others because if you would have asked me a few years ago I would have never thought I could get things done with a child just from hearing stories from my friends!

I know Im just rambling on but I just think, if people (myself included because I know Im guilty sometimes) would just listen to other mothers advice...and watch what everyone else does without judging...you will learn a thing or two. I know that I have friends whose kids nap ON THEM, they can't do a thing because their child won't sleep without being on them durning nap time. So what have I learned from them...dont let my child sleep on me LOL. If they start to, break them of it. Which several friends have given me tips on that too. So believe you-me if that gets started we will be breaking that asap! Potty training, listen to what worked for your friends, and take their advice. If your kid isn't ready your kid isn't ready...as long as your in no rush who really cares what people think! (Esp when you cloth diaper, its not like your in a hurry to get out of diapers because of the cost, haha). 

I'm in a lot of groups/pages on facebook and some of them I realllly dislike, I just can't work up the courage to leave them. People actuallllllly believe that if you have a c-section its the worst thing in the entire world. Im sorry but my mom had two, and guess what...shes just as much of a mother as you are. Then these people think if you don't breastfeed your like the worst person in the world. Trust me, my dream labor would be to do everything all natural, no c-section, and then my child will latch onto the boob no problem & I'll be breastfeeding till baby is ready to stop ((or 1 year old is my max)) But the reality is, labor hurts. Some people have higher pain tolerance then others, some people have longer labor.. some people have problems. Don't judge people for how they delivered their baby. And breastfeeding...trust me I am 1000000% for it. I think everyone who is ABLE should! I pray that I am able to breastfeed my baby. But guess what, not everyone can. That doesn't make you a bad mother! I PERSONALLY find it selfish when a mother doesn't even try, buttt some women don't feel comfortable so whatever, thats their deal. Honestly, they are the ones missing out on the great bonding experience they could have.  Im deff going to be the type of mother who says, look I want a natural labor, I want to breastfeed....but if I can't its not the end of the world. I would MUCH rather have a c-section, or get induced then put my child in danger! Sometimes I wish God could make those people who are sooo judgmental on c-sections get stuck having one LOL. How funny would it be if someone their entire pregnancy said I won't have a c-section no matter what....baby is born via c-section! lol. Okay, that might be a little mean, but seriously its not like c-setions are horrible.